Self Love Isn’t Selfish At All

Self Love Isn’t Selfish

How often do you care for your self? Do you take as much time for yourself as you do for your family members?

Amazing things happen when you think of your own happiness sometimes because you see the best version of your self. It’s one thing to have love of others as a priority but it’s another to think of your own needs. Self-love means to care for your own mental health, to be surrounded by positive people, to get rid of negative thoughts, and to have unconditional love of yourself as well as others.

Self-Love Means

What does self-love mean? Is it the only way to your own happiness? Is it the opposite of selfishness? Is it knowing the best version of you to meet your own needs? Is it avoiding negative thoughts towards positive people to have healthy boundaries? Self-Love can mean so many things to a lot of people in an important relationship. To me, it means having the courage to think about your needs first or at least many times before thinking about someone else’s needs.

It’s about checking on your physical health as well as your mental health to during good times and hard time. It’s putting yourself on check before moving on to check on others. Self love also means seeing a personal growth and showing unconditional love. It’s being your own best friend and showing love to yourself and the love of others.

Self Love Doubts

Some people have low self-esteem around a lot of people and tend to have a hard time with new things too. This often happens if you’ve had toxic relationships and little love of yourself. The physical health and the important relationships are often neglected and not valued. But what you don’t know is that the opposite of selfishness is to know that the important person to have an important relationship in your life is you. You are your best friend and you can never forget that.

The only way to get you out of that slump is to tell yourself that you are your greatest gifts in life. Keep healthy boundaries within yourself and others that may bring you down. Get enough sleep and work on your personal growth. As a child of God, you are valued more than you think. Just like fresh flowers, get your self into fresh outdoor activities and shine in your own way. Work on your emotional health so that you are able to express your feelings freely.

Steps To Loving Yourself

First thing to do is to have a close friend who can hold you accountable for doing something for yourself. Maybe hold each other accountable and check in with each other to see if you’ve each done something for self love.

Social media portrays so many people in the best way but that’s not the case all the time. The entire universe does not revolve around positive atmosphere. Many people show only the good things in their social media posts to hide behind all the negative aspects of their lives. It’s a way to make people think that they’re lives are perfect and good. But at times, it can be seen through that the life they want to show off isn’t really the life they are living.

Respect yourself the way you would respect others in various situations. The golden rule is to do unto others as you wish others done to you. So why not apply that same rule to yourself. Give yourself that love you deserve no matter what. Often we forget that we are a person too and that need great attention just as anyone else. When you’re so caught up giving to others, yourself is neglected sometimes.

Taking care of yourself is NEVER selfish. It’s only a righteous thing to do. Instead of always putting others first, put yourself first sometimes and take care of you. Pamper yourself when you need and love you to the fullest as well. No one deserves more love than you yourself.

Why Is Self Love Important

Imagine being a mom trying to teach your kids to love. How can you show love to your kids when you can’t show love to yourself? Love comes first from within yourself. If you don’t love yourself enough to take care of yourself, how can you worry and care for someone else? The level of love may not always be the same for yourself and towards others but it should still be strong enough to maintain both.

Some people give themselves the guilt trip for thinking of themselves first, but you should never feel bad for self love. There’s a difference between self-love and only thinking of yourself period. Self-love is knowing to give attention to yourself while giving attention to others in need. It’s about knowing the balance of keeping both measures in tact.

Self love is also important because you deserve love as much if not more than anyone in this world. No matter what emotional, physical, or mental traits might have caused you to believe you don’t deserve love, but that is not the case. You have to be more understanding and loving of yourself before you expect or seek love from someone else. You have to know the level of giving love to receive love. It’s mostly a two-way street when it comes to love. Love yourself first so that you can give that love back to someone else and vice versa.

Self love allows you to create and build a positive atmosphere around you and your surroundings. Did you know that the type of relationship you create and maintain with yourself can be something that can be carried with you for life? You take that into other relationships you build with other people and it can set a tone of whether it be a positive relationship or that of a negative one.

Self-Love Quotes

• “If you ever want to love someone, love yourself unconditionally first.” ~Debasish Mridha

• “Our first and last love is self-love.” ~ Christian Nestell Bovee

• “You’ve got to love yourself first. You’ve got to be okay on your own before you can be okay with somebody else.” ~ Jennifer Lopez

• “Love yourself unconditionally, just as you love those closest to you despite their faults.” ~ Les Brown

• “I am my own experiment. I am my own work of art.” ~ Madonna

• “I was once afraid of people saying, ‘Who does she think she is?’ Now I have the courage to stand and say, ‘This is who I am.’” ~ Oprah Winfrey

• “Everyone of us needs to show how much we care for each other and, in the process, care for ourselves.” ~ Princess Diana

• “Self-love has very little to do with how you feel about your outer self. It’s about accepting all of yourself.” ~ Tyra Banks

• “If you are happy, you can give happiness. If you don’t love yourself and if you are unhappy with yourself, you can’t give anything else but that.” ~ Gisele Bündchen

• “I am not bound to win, but I am bound to be true. I am not bound to succeed, but I am bound to live up to what light I have.” ~ Abraham Lincoln

• “Just do what works for you, because there will always be somebody who thinks differently.” ~ Michelle Obama

• “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

• “Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.” ~ Anna Taylor

• “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” ~ Buddha

• “Friendship with oneself is all important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

• “Find out who you are and be that person. That’s what your soul was put on this Earth to be. Find that truth, live that truth, and everything else will come.” ~ Ellen DeGeneres

• “Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

• “Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is you-er than you! Shout loud, ‘I am lucky to be what I am!’” ~ Dr. Seuss

• “Be healthy and take care of yourself, but be happy with the beautiful things that make you, you.” ~ Beyonce

If you can take anything from this, is to know that it’s okay to care for yourself. You can come first sometimes and you can do somethings you like first as well. To give yourself love first is not selfish. It’s called LOVE. Love is eternal and ever lasting to whoever it is given to. Loving yourself doesn’t come with a price tag and should be valued just as any other love. Be certain that you are worthy of all the love, especially self-love.

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